Make Your Choice the Right Choice
Own your decisions and create the life you want.
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Usually, the first question we ask ourselves following a big life decision is something along the lines of, “Why did I do this?” Not because we necessarily regret it… but because change brings doubt to the surface. And sometimes, it takes the brain a little time to catch up to the heart. It’s human nature to question ourselves when the ground shifts beneath our feet. But this isn’t a feeling we should run from… it’s a feeling we should chase.
Indecision. Have you felt it? Feeling indecisive can feel like a prison, whether you are choosing a career path or just trying to order at a restaurant. The worry that we may make the wrong decision and be dissatisfied in a certain aspect of our life can be surprisingly paralyzing… keeping us stuck in the same place with no forward motion. It is important to think things through and weigh our options, but there does come a time when we must make a choice and the sooner you make the choice, the sooner you move on with it. You get on with life, and you discover what’s on the other side.
You make your choice the right choice. You take the pieces you are dealt and you find a way to make them work. You become resourceful and open yourself up to life unfolding in a way you could have never imagined. Lots of times, the right decision only becomes the right decision because you choose to make it so. You pour your heart out and will it to become bigger than the fear that tried to stop you. And if you find yourself unhappy with how the cookie crumbles, you’ll just bake a dozen more.
Sometimes, when we make a choice, we come to find ourselves in not so great circumstances. There have been countless times in my life where I have made a decision, only to find out that it wasn’t as great as I hoped it would be on the other side. But then, with time, I came to realize that I did in fact make the right choice… my life just needed a little time to reorganize itself around it. Sometimes it takes the people around you time as well… when we make choices that change who we are and how we show up in the world, it can be a shock to the people who love us because we no longer fit into their life in the way we used to.
But let me ask you a question… what if you DID make the wrong decision? What if, after all the indecision, you made a decision that turned out to be terribly wrong? What would happen?… Well, you’d make another decision. And another. And another and another, until one day you realize you finally made a right decision and in actuality, all of your previous decisions that felt wrong were actually right, because they all led you to the right decision in the present moment.
I’ve come to realize that there are no wrong decisions as long as I am listening to my own gut rather than someone else’s. Other people can be highly persuasive when they want us to do something that serves them and their needs rather than our own. If you are someone who is used to letting someone else like a parent or a partner run your life, you may find yourself experiencing indecision anytime you have to make a choice and running back to them, looking to be told what to do. But one day, you will wake up and realize that your life is not your own. Asking for guidance can be a helpful tool, but nothing is more powerful than a strong intuition.
If you are looking to build a strong inner compass, you must be patient with yourself and be okay with having things be messy at times. But once you do get the hang of trusting yourself, you will be amazed at what you can create with your life.
I feel like coming to this point of view is SO “adult” of me… realizing that your life is not up to anyone but yourself, and it is your responsibility to make it whatever the size you want it to be. You are going to have to make game-time decisions in life that won’t allow room for questioning which path to take… and those are usually the best ones.
So, next time you are faced with a decision to make, try not to get caught up in the minutia of what could possibly go wrong… instead, lean into the possibility of what could go right. And most of all, trust that whatever decision you make, you will make it the right one.
-Reid
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